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My sister the J.A.P.
Remember the HOLY COW I said I'd be sharing in a few days? Well, fasten your seat belts and put on your helmets because here comes another roller coaster! My sister is adopted. She was with a foster family for six months before she came to live with us and her name was Dawn (she was renamed when she became a member of our family). I remember very clearly the day she was brought home. I didn't want ANYTHING to do with her. I was nine at the time, was the only girl child in the house and wasn't too keen on giving up my special status. Even though my school was only one block from our house, it took me a good 45 minutes to get home. I put off meeting this 'intruder' as long as I possibly could. As soon as I saw my new sister, I didn't care about any stinkin' status. I immediately fell in love with her and have loved her to infinity ever since. My sister and I have a very unique and special bond. I dare say that our bond is closer than any set of sisters I've ever known. As mentioned in a post some time ago, this bond comes from circumstances that are beyond the norm. Beyond being close, some people think that we've taken on each others features. When either of us introduces each other to someone, we always hear, "I can tell that you're sisters. You guys look alike". Really, neither of us see what other people are seeing. We don't think we look at all alike, but that comparison has always made us giggle. We do not share a single solitary gene, or even the same nationality for that matter. Someone once even commented that we even have our own "language" like twins often have. Do you get the drift? We're tight. As you know, I've recently found my b-father's family. Exactly a week ago, as a matter of fact. This spurred my sister into wanting to finally trace her roots. All she had to do was give the word and I was on it like white on rice. The wonderful lady who connected me with the information about my b-father's family gave us the name of an adoption records researcher. The two worked hand in hand and not only came up with my sister's adoption records, but even told her where her b-parents are now living along with a phone number. Here's the kicker. OK, there are several kickers. Her b-parents were not married at the time she was born, but ended up getting married three years later and had three sons. My sister has three fully biological brothers and it appears that her b-parents are still married! The wonderful woman who found my my sister's adoption records told sis that her b-mother named her Dawn. I always assumed that this is what her foster family named her. I really liked what she had to say to my sis about the fact that her b-mother named her: "I hope she likes her name (Dawn). I always think that when a birthmother names a child that she doesn't really want to give her up. Some are just named "Baby Girl Jones" or whatever..." What a wonderfully nice thing to tell her. I can't help but believe it's true. My sis isn't ready to make contact with her b-family and I can totally respect that. I suspect that there will come a day that she will want to make contact and I've offered (and she's accepted) to make the initial phone calls on her behalf. So, to explain the title of the post. My sis was told that she was half Mexican (from Mexico!) and half North European. Turns out that she's half Jewish (that's the J.A.P. title comes from - Jewish American Princess) and half Spanish, as in Spain. I find the Jewish half to be rather ironic since our last name is German, but is often confused for being Jewish. So, there's the big news. I'm so glad that we're going to experience this roller coaster together. That's just how it should be. I believe without a shadow of a doubt that we were meant to be sisters in the grand scheme of things. How we got to be sisters is just a minor detail. I'll be posting this link in my side bar to the woman (Jan) who researched the adoption records for my sis. She turned the information around in less than an hour. Jan and Shelle (the woman who gave us all the information we needed to contact our birth-families) are angels. They truly are. And sis? I love you beyond anything you could ever imagine. I'm so happy for you. RisibleGirl was blabbing on about another adventure on 07/29 at 05:07 PM
   ![]()    ![]() heidi wrote:
Thanks to Jan and Shelle but also, thanks to my sis, RG, for making it possible. In that pic, I look like I'm having a REALLY good laugh!! Probably laughing at my sister. She's the best.
   ![]() RisibleGirl wrote:
I still wonder where your nose is.... all I see is two little holes in your face where a nose should be. Be the change you wish to see in the world.
   ![]() heidi wrote:
ha ha! Maybe I should get those glasses with the big nose...I'll just rip the mustache off.
   ![]() Joker wrote:
Just wanted to tell you guys that you are tops and i am happy for you two and wish you the best!!!! have a great time!!! stopping cuz i think i am starting to ramble.    ![]() Lauren wrote:
Hey Lori, this is an awesome story. Your parents must be so lucky to have such wonderful children! Your sister is adorable. Speaking of pictures from childhood... I'm hosting a send me your baby pictures blog post. If you have any of you as a young child, email them to me and I will grace the blogworld with an adorable little Lori!!    ![]()    ![]() poopie wrote:
WooHOOOOO...it's a miracle a minute over here! Congrats and many smiles to both of you    ![]() Drunken Lagomorph wrote:
Email sent! I doubt if she can help me with my biodad search because Missouri records are closed (fuck you Missouri!). But it was worth asking.    ![]() Anonymous G wrote:
this is such wonderfully exciting news, RG. it's just amazing to be learning all of this at this time in your lives. opens up a whole new world for all of you. congrats and hugs...    ![]()    ![]() Bird wrote:
Hi, I love your story and I was wondering if I could ask your opinion on an adoption issue. My husband is adopted and he has no interest in finding anything out about his birth parents. I want to know if it is insensitive or wrong for me to suggest he do this if for no other reason but to know if he might have health issues he should be aware of. I haven't mentioned this to him and don't even know if he has enough information to search for birth parents. All he knows is his birth date and the city and state he was born in. Is this enough information? His mother is almost 97 now and he would never ask her for any more details than that because he worries that would hurt her feelings. My husband's sister was also adopted (as was another son) and my husband and his sister have always been very close and felt like they really are blood brother and sister somehow. Then when my sister-in-law had a son, he looks so much like my husband, it's uncanny. I guess what I want to know is if I should mention to him about finding birth parents and if so, how is the best way to bring it up? Also, how would one get started in searching? Thanks!    ![]() Jennifer wrote:
Wow. I am completely and utterly bowled over by this entire set of circumstances. I can scarcely imagine what it must be like for you. I'm so happy for you, I don't even have adequate words to tell how very much. Amazing. And Lori? With the guilt? Just don't. You can be sympathetic to her feelings, and careful of them, sure. But this is you, baby. All you. It was never your fault. But now it's your wonder. Enjoy it; embrace it; be in it. Fully. As I know you will. P.S. If it did turn out I was your sister, I'd be a little shocked at my own lack of awareness of my own heritage. But I'd be thrilled and delighted, to bits, all the same.    ![]() Chairman Meow wrote:
You know its funny, she still looks the same now! I guess some things never change.    ![]() MngaKim wrote:
wow! It's awesome that you have each other and I'm happy you are together for such events! I have a similar story, maybe I'll share it one day as well!    ![]() FTS wrote:
This just keeps getting better ---
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