Boundries
It appears that it's my time to finally learn how to create healthy boundaries. This is something I haven't given a whole lot of effort in doing, because it was easier just to 'go with the flow'.

Although it seemed to be the easiest thing to do, generally it created more work for me in the long run. This applied in my work life as well as my personal life.

I've been working on many areas in my life over the past five years or so, and I'd have to say that creating healthy boundaries has been the one I've procrastinated. It just didn't seem that important to me.

I guess that the Universe or God or whatever your belief system is, has decided that I'm no longer allowed to procrastinate this lesson. It's quite possible that I've been given the lesson several times already, but have chosen to ignore it. This time I'm listening and I'm learning.

I finally figured out that the situation with the snake was a boundaries lesson. I think that once I acknowledged that, and acted on it appropriately, the whole thing settled right down. I haven't had an 'incident' in weeks. I am fully confident that should I have another incident that I'm now emotionally equipped to handle it.

I've learned to not put myself in situations where I'm tested. I'm no longer going to web sites and blogs that affect me negatively. I no longer associate with people in real life who create too much drama. I don't make a big noise when I do it. I just quietly slip away.

I've not yet mastered creating boundaries with family, just because of the way I was brought up. was brought up to believe that family comes first. I still believe that. So creating boundaries with family is and will probably continue to be a struggle for me. But I'm being tested in that area right now too.

I suspect that the mere fact that I'm writing this out here in my very public blog is an indication that I'm ready to tackle the final frontier.

Wish me luck.

RisibleGirl was blabbing on about another adventure on 05/16 at 05:42 PM

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FTS wrote:

We all have to have boundaries in our lives. They're a healthy and reasonable thing to do, and once people understand where they are they will either learn to accept and respect them, or they'll move on. Or you will.

The fact you're getting around to setting your boundaries is a good sign. grin


  

ED wrote:

You can do it!
Don't let them get you down - you deserve your space and your bounderies.


  

Azalea wrote:

Yes, I'm with you on the boundaries issue. Looks like that is a "up front" for me these days. If not this, then something else!! I wish you all the luck in the world!! Hugs!!


  

janie wrote:

I'm right behind ya.....


  

ComfortAddict wrote:

Good luck, RG. I've fought this battle, too, and I've come out the other side. You may feel bad on occasion but persist. It will lessen then pass.


  

KathyHowe wrote:

Good luck! I hope things straighten out for you soon!

I have a theory and it is this:

Blood is thicker than water, my ass.

I don't support the idea that people should tolerate things from other people simply because they are family.

A toxic person is a toxic person is a toxic person.

I have severed ties (without regrets) with several in my life...family members included. Life is short. Don't let others drag you down for any reason and bravo to you for giving up negative blogs. There are so many I can't keep track. If I want drama I'll watch an episode of COPS.


  

frozenmojo wrote:

i totally agree with kathyhowe! the blood is thicker than water concept is a fable invented by possesive, selfish relatives (usually parents) who think the world should revolve around them and that their children have no right to a life of their own. ugh! it it a tough area of life to deal with because it's hard to fly in the face of convention, but you gotta do what's best for you and your immediate family. in the end, everyone is better off.


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